Adoption Nonfiction

To continue recognizing November as National Adoption Month, here are ten nonfiction books about adoption.

Adopting in America: How to Adopt Within One Year by Randall Hicks - Authored by one of the nation's leading adoption attorneys, ADOPTING IN AMERICA is the ultimate "how to" book for anyone thinking of adopting. Written in a clear style, it details every type of adoption. This includes not just the standard types (domestic independent, agency and international) covered in other books, but a total of 14 subtypes, including little-known options like non-resident adoption, permitted in 26 states. (These states allow adoptive parents from other states to complete their adoption in their state even though the adoptive parents don't live there, if the minor is born there. This gives adoptive parents greater flexibility to complete their adoption in a state with more favorable adoption laws, procedures and options than their home state.) Particular attention is given to the adoption desired by most adoptive parents: a healthy newborn, including how to network for, and be selected by, a birth mother.The book also includes: Special strategies for success in adopting quickly (particularly when seeking a newborn adoption) known only to top adoption attorneys; a review of key legal issues and how to navigate them safely; how to spot red flags to a risky adoption; how to select the best adoption agency or attorney; how to obtain free medical benefits for the baby; the federal adoption tax credit of $12,650; a review of each state's unique adoption laws, with biographies of each state's members of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys (over 300 nationally). There are also sample photo-resume letters and networking cover letters. Includes detailed appendices and index.

Adopting Older Children: A Practical Guide to Adopting and Parenting Children Over Age 4 by Stephanie Bosco-Ruggiero, Victor Groza, & Gloria Russo Wassell - Are you thinking of adopting an older child? There are 200,000 plus hoping for families in the U.S. alone and more worldwide. Adopting an older child, though, presents a unique set of parenting issues as well as rewards. Adopting Older Children highlights the most significant challenges when parenting older adoptees who face mental health, behavioral and educational issues. Included is critical information about developmental issues that may arise for the adoptee, issues related to the adoptee's emerging sense of self, sexual orientation and cultural identity and other special needs that an adoptee may have.

Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It by Ray Guarendi - Ray Guarendi, psychologist, husband and father of ten adopted children, considers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His aim? To dispel unsettling misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved.
A must-have resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix as family members or friends of adoptive parents.

All You Can Ever Know by Nicole Chung - Nicole Chung was born severely premature, placed for adoption by her Korean parents, and raised by a white family in a sheltered Oregon town. She was told her biological parents had made the ultimate sacrifice in the hope of giving her a better life, that forever feeling slightly out of place was her fate as a transracial adoptee. But Nicole grew up facing prejudice her adoptive family couldn't see, and wondered if the story she'd been told was the whole truth. Here Chung tells of her search for the people who gave her up, and chronicles the repercussions of unearthing painful family secrets.

Between Light and Shadow: A Guatemalan Girl's Journey Through Adoption by Jacob Wheeler - In Between Light and Shadow veteran journalist Jacob Wheeler puts a human face on the Guatemalan adoption industry, which has exploited, embraced, and sincerely sought to improve the lives of the Central American nation's poorest children. Fourteen-year-old Ellie, abandoned at age seven and adopted by a middle-class family from Michigan, is at the center of this story. Wheeler re-creates the painful circumstances of Ellie's abandonment, her adoption and Americanization, her search for her birth mother, and her joyous and haunting return to Guatemala, where she finds her teenage brothers--unleashing a bond that transcends language and national borders.
 Following Ellie's journey, Wheeler peels back the layers of an adoption economy that some view as an unscrupulous baby-selling industry that manipulates impoverished indigenous Guatemalan women, and others herald as the only chance for poor children to have a better life. Through Ellie, Wheeler allows us to see what all this means in personal and practical terms--and to understand how well-intentioned and sometimes humanitarian first-world wealth can collide with the extreme poverty, despair, misogyny, racism, and violent history of Guatemala.

Forever Mom: What to Expect When You're Adopting by Mary Ostyn - What to do when you've been called to adopt and practical advice to make it work. Mary Ostyn married her sweetheart at nineteen, and the pair had four kids by their eighth anniversary. When their youngest was three, God opened their eyes to the needs of orphans all over the world--and answered Mary's longing for another baby. Over the next nine years the couple adopted two boys from Korea and four girls from Ethiopia.Ostyn, a beloved adoption writer and blogger, shares--alongside stories from other adoptive families--the practical tools and resources she uses to thrive as an adoptive mom. In Forever Mom, she reveals how to: build heart connections prepare your other children for new siblings help babies, toddlers, and older children settle in implement attachment parenting address misbehavior while remaining connected nurture your marriage in the midst of it all Whether you're the parent of an adopted child or interested in pursuing adoption, Ostyn's warm advice and fresh perspective will inspire, inform, and affirm. You'll walk away confident you will be the perfect mom for whatever child God brings into your life.

In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You To Know About Adoption: A Guide for Relatives and Friends by Elisabeth O'Toole - One adoption social worker called In On It "the adoption book for everyone else": the grandparents and friends, neighbors and colleagues, aunts and uncles, teachers and caregivers of adoptive families. In On It contains helpful advice and instructive anecdotes from adoptive parents, adult adoptees, adoption professionals, and the friends and relatives of already established adoptive families. The author, an adoptive parent herself, has written an informative, friendly and very useful adoption guide that informs and enlightens readers even as it offers them a warm welcome into adoption.

No Biking in the House Without a Helmet by Melissa Fay Greene - When the two-time National Book Award finalist Melissa Fay Greene confided to friends that she and her husband planned to adopt a four-year-old boy from Bulgaria to add to their four children at home, the news threatened to place her, she writes, "among the greats: the Kennedys, the McCaughey septuplets, the von Trapp family singers, and perhaps even Mrs. Feodor Vassilyev, who, according to the Guinness Book of World Records, gave birth to sixty-nine children in eighteenth-century Russia."
Greene is best known for her books on the civil rights movement and the African HIV/AIDS pandemic. She's been praised for her "historian's urge for accuracy," her "sociologist's sense of social nuance," and her "writerly passion for the beauty of language."
But Melissa and her husband have also pursued a more private vocation: parenthood. "We so loved raising our four children by birth, we didn't want to stop. When the clock started to run down on the home team, we brought in ringers."
When the number of children hit nine, Greene took a break from reporting. She trained her journalist's eye upon events at home. Fisseha was riding a bike down the basement stairs; out on the porch, a squirrel was sitting on Jesse's head; vulgar posters had erupted on bedroom walls; the insult niftam (the Amharic word for "snot") had led to fistfights; and four non-native-English-speaking teenage boys were researching, on Mom's computer, the subject of "saxing."
"At first I thought one of our trombone players was considering a change of instrument," writes Greene. "Then I remembered: they can't spell."
Using the tools of her trade, she uncovered the true subject of the "saxing" investigation, inspiring the chapter "Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex, but Couldn't Spell."
A celebration of parenthood; an ingathering of children, through birth and out of loss and bereavement; a relishing of moments hilarious and enlightening--No Biking in the House Without a Helmet is a loving portrait of a unique twenty first-century family as it wobbles between disaster and joy.

The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole by Lori Holden with Crystal Hass - Prior to 1990, fewer than five percent of domestic infant adoptions were open. In 2012, ninety percent or more of adoption agencies are recommending open adoption. Yet these agencies do not often or adequately prepare either adopting parents or birth parents for the road ahead of them The adult parties in open adoptions are left floundering. There are many resources on why to do open adoption, but what about how? Open adoption isn't just something parents do when they exchange photos, send emails, share a visit. It's a lifestyle that may feel intrusive at times, be difficult or inconvenient at other times. Tensions can arise even in the best of circumstances. But knowing how to handle these situations and how to continue to make arrangements work for the child involved is paramount. This book offers readers the tools and the insight to do just that. It covers common open-adoption situations and how real families have navigated typical issues successfully. Like all useful parenting books, it provides parents with the tools to come to answers on their own, and answers questions that might not yet have come up. Through their own stories and those of other families of open adoption, Lori and Crystal review the secrets to success, the pitfalls and challenges, the joys and triumphs. By putting the adopted child at the center, families can come to enjoy the benefits of open adoption and mitigate the challenges that may arise. More than a how-to, this book shares a mindset, a heartset, that can be learned and internalized, so parents can choose to act out of love and honesty throughout their child s growing up years, helping that child to grow up whole.

Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Navigating the Teen Years by Katie Naftzger - Adult adoptee and family therapist Katie Naftzger shares her personal and professional wisdom in this guide to help adoptive parents remain a calm parental influence in the midst of stormy and erratic teen behavior. This guide describes the essential skills you need to help your adopted teen confidently face the challenges of growing up and outlines four key goals for adoptive parents:
· To move from rescuing to responding
· To set adoption-sensitive limits and ground rules
· To have connecting conversations
· To help your teen envision their future
Parenting in the Eye of the Storm contains invaluable insights for adoptive parents and simple strategies you can use to prepare your adopted teen for the journey ahead and strengthen the family bond in the process. It provides answers, guidance and understanding - working as a road-map through the tempestuous teenage years.